Comments on: A Tough Day but Better Than Yesterday https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday Adoption changed my life. I write about this and so much more. Fri, 20 Nov 2020 17:00:15 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.2 By: Julie https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-638 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 07:42:46 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-638 I can so relate! Soon it will be over! Just think one step at a time.

We visited twice a day, which I thought would be great but man it was hard. Some days we were so releaved to have to sign documents! Sounds bad I know. I was so glad to have a child to visit after our first week of nothing that I felt especially guilty for wanting to miss a visit.:) One was 2+ hours and the second was 1.5hrs.

It seems like we've been home for so long but we were gone longer than we've been back. Does that make sense!?

Did you pick a name??

]]> By: Julie https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-639 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 07:42:46 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-639 I can so relate! Soon it will be over! Just think one step at a time.

We visited twice a day, which I thought would be great but man it was hard. Some days we were so releaved to have to sign documents! Sounds bad I know. I was so glad to have a child to visit after our first week of nothing that I felt especially guilty for wanting to miss a visit.:) One was 2+ hours and the second was 1.5hrs.

It seems like we've been home for so long but we were gone longer than we've been back. Does that make sense!?

Did you pick a name??

]]> By: Julie https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-640 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 07:42:46 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-640 I can so relate! Soon it will be over! Just think one step at a time.

We visited twice a day, which I thought would be great but man it was hard. Some days we were so releaved to have to sign documents! Sounds bad I know. I was so glad to have a child to visit after our first week of nothing that I felt especially guilty for wanting to miss a visit.:) One was 2+ hours and the second was 1.5hrs.

It seems like we've been home for so long but we were gone longer than we've been back. Does that make sense!?

Did you pick a name??

]]> By: Jstar https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-644 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:14:30 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-644 Hey, guys…

Stephanie, it sounds like this time is really hard for you. You're so right that your little guy will eventually come to experience love for you (and you'll get to experience his love), but it does take time. When we explained toddler adoption to folks at home, we had to tell them all about how Sash had never experienced what it's like to be in a family and we had to teach her what it meant to have special people in her life who were unlike anybody else. It's a process to be sure.

If you want to email, I'm happy to help you brainstorm bonding ideas or just be a set of eyes to vent to 🙂 I think that most adoptive parents, especially adoptive parents of toddlers, have been through something like this – you are not alone!

You're welcome to email morningstarje at gmail dot com

Thinking of y'all – and Merry Christmas!

]]> By: Jstar https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-645 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:14:30 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-645 Hey, guys…

Stephanie, it sounds like this time is really hard for you. You're so right that your little guy will eventually come to experience love for you (and you'll get to experience his love), but it does take time. When we explained toddler adoption to folks at home, we had to tell them all about how Sash had never experienced what it's like to be in a family and we had to teach her what it meant to have special people in her life who were unlike anybody else. It's a process to be sure.

If you want to email, I'm happy to help you brainstorm bonding ideas or just be a set of eyes to vent to 🙂 I think that most adoptive parents, especially adoptive parents of toddlers, have been through something like this – you are not alone!

You're welcome to email morningstarje at gmail dot com

Thinking of y'all – and Merry Christmas!

]]> By: Julie C. https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-641 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:14:27 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-641 Hello Stephanie,
I know the days can become very routine, hang in there a bit longer! You are past mid point, on the downward side now. We used the local taxis ALOT, and while I was very nervous at first also, it became quite the normal thing to do for us. (being there for 6 weeks) We never once had any glimmer of a threat or scare of any kind.

You are doing great with little B.! It might help to try and think of the bonding time as a 'kid in a candy store'. These 2 hours are so different then the rest of the childs daily routine. Their little brains see so much to take in, so it can easily be like a whirlwind at times, especially the older they are. You are the best to know what he is feeling like. His active behavior could easily be just the feeling of being contained and cooped up. It will pass once he learns his boundaries and has the freedom at home where you will all grow even more as a family. Enjoy these last few days!
Julie

]]> By: Julie C. https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-642 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:14:27 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-642 Hello Stephanie,
I know the days can become very routine, hang in there a bit longer! You are past mid point, on the downward side now. We used the local taxis ALOT, and while I was very nervous at first also, it became quite the normal thing to do for us. (being there for 6 weeks) We never once had any glimmer of a threat or scare of any kind.

You are doing great with little B.! It might help to try and think of the bonding time as a 'kid in a candy store'. These 2 hours are so different then the rest of the childs daily routine. Their little brains see so much to take in, so it can easily be like a whirlwind at times, especially the older they are. You are the best to know what he is feeling like. His active behavior could easily be just the feeling of being contained and cooped up. It will pass once he learns his boundaries and has the freedom at home where you will all grow even more as a family. Enjoy these last few days!
Julie

]]> By: Julie C. https://stephaniekarpwrites.com/2009/12/tough-day-but-better-than-yesterday/#comment-643 Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:14:27 +0000 http://box2369.temp.domains/~tephaoz1/?p=213#comment-643 Hello Stephanie,
I know the days can become very routine, hang in there a bit longer! You are past mid point, on the downward side now. We used the local taxis ALOT, and while I was very nervous at first also, it became quite the normal thing to do for us. (being there for 6 weeks) We never once had any glimmer of a threat or scare of any kind.

You are doing great with little B.! It might help to try and think of the bonding time as a 'kid in a candy store'. These 2 hours are so different then the rest of the childs daily routine. Their little brains see so much to take in, so it can easily be like a whirlwind at times, especially the older they are. You are the best to know what he is feeling like. His active behavior could easily be just the feeling of being contained and cooped up. It will pass once he learns his boundaries and has the freedom at home where you will all grow even more as a family. Enjoy these last few days!
Julie

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