Due to a combination of having vertigo and not being able to get a babysitter for Eden, I was not able to attend A’s funeral today. Gary went with the rest of my family and represented me too.
Gary came home from the funeral and told me that D, the 70 year old daughter of A, was telling him and my family that even with her mother being 95, it is never enough. How there were so many more things she would have wanted to say and do, how even at her age, it is never easy to lose a parent. D is a wonderful woman and friend to our family and whenever she sees Gary, she has always said to him “slow down … remember what is important in life.” I did not find this information out until yesterday, that her periodic wise statements have been part of the movement that has been slowly influencing Gary to slow down to the pace of life of his family. (I won’t get into the fact that my own wise statements haven’t affected him until now. haha!) Sometimes it takes something outside of your world to make it click. That is okay. We have suffered a bit as a family over the past few years as his business was growing more than he could keep up at one point. However, something has been clicking and I see a change in Gary already. He always spent every spare moment with his family while not working, but now he actually sees less value is working as hard as he had been. We will do just fine. I am not a person who needs “stuff” and I think Gary knows that by now.
My whole point of this is that while Gary is talking to me about what Dorothy said, his eyes are welling up. And I said to him “What is going on? What are you thinking?” And he blurted out “I’m at 65 now. I’m at 65.” And then, “I don’t want our lives to pass us by. I don’t want to waste time, I know this is important.”
By George, I think he’s got it.
One year ago, I never in my life would have guessed that this deep desire of mine might become a deep desire of ours, and furthermore, that it might actually come to fruition. It is amazing what can happen in a life time. There are possibilities around every corner. I am grateful for all that I am, all that I have, and all that is yet to be.
